Pyar Ke Side Effects

Though I never really had a break-up, (I was never really in a mutual relationship, so all my break ups were one sided), but I know the phases that follow a break-up…I've seen a lot of them

So here it is, for the rookies…the one’s who have never been in a relationship….mutual or otherwise…beware of “break-up”!!!!

Let’s see the phases that follow a break-up:

1)      the first few days are living hell…it seems like the sky has fallen and the world has come to an end…but as they say, this too shall pass away

2)      the next stage is called “mai sharabi hu”…yeah, you start scoring high on booze quotient…n nothing can stop you…u just try everything….beer, whisky, vodka, rum…whatever comes your way…so the bottomline is, ladki kuch kare na kare…she certainly contributes to your alcoholism :P

3)      when you have a break-up…you have all the time in the world to waste…n u utilize it to maximum…you watch movies, listen to some ultra sad songs, you sleep, you again watch movies, listen songs n again you go back to sleep…n the viscous circle continues…

4)      now, slowly and steadily you start believing that you can never get “her”…your sense enlightens…and you decide to live life to the fullest… you apparently start to enjoy life…you start studying hard to prove that you’re worth it…and ultimately it all ends pretty soon (c’mon how long can you fool yourself)

5)      Now this is a new one, “BREAK UP PARTY”!!! I have been to such parties…n believe me…its not that bad… (c’mon, free me khane ko mil raha hai, what else u want)

6)      Slowly and steadily you start mutating…you can either become a “joyless loner” and start living life in the dark or you become a “pervert swine” and start flirting with every single girl that comes your way…I’d prefer the later :P

7)      Next stage is called “coming-of-age”…you get to know your self like you had never known before…suddenly you realize the truth… you start believing you’ve had enough of love and want to do something important in life…you think you’ll be next Narayan Murthy or Bill Gates…n some actually end up being Mark Zuckerberg!!!!

8)      Finally, after all those epiphanies and self realization….something terrible happens…the moment you think you have figured it all…your life and your dreams, you find another girl…you fell in love…and sooner or later you break up…and this viscous circle starts all over again…

So…no matter how hard you try, you cant get out this pit once you’ve fallen in it…so, my advice is to stay away from this hell called relationship which ultimately leads to a break up…or you can always revert back to the “murphy’s law”, like I do :P

Free Will vs Destiny

Before you start reading, I just wanna ask one question…are you reading it on your free will or was it your destiny to read it???

Yup you are right… that’s the topic of this post… free will v/s destiny…I am a firm believer in free will…I have always believed that its our free will that drive us…that motivate us…that guides us to do things…its all about the free will… I mean who decides if I am gonna write this post!!! Its me…only me…I can continue to write it or I can just stop it here…but again, the question here is who’s gonna read it?? All I can do is write this stuff…that’s where my free will ends… I cant make sure that anyone’s gonna read it…o.k, now just for the sake, let’s assume that I persuade some of my friends to read it…but again I cant make them like it…its pretty uncertain if they’ll like it or they’ll despise it… and this unknown factor is what, I guess, people call destiny or luck… I am an atheist, and its pretty hard for me to believe in something unnatural… I don’t believe that something just happens…there gotta be some reason…and it’s the free will that makes “it” happen… unfortunately I cannot explain that unknown factor…but hell, I am sure there’s some reason behind it… I mean its pretty weird that we all are destined to do something in our life…but wouldn’t that be unfair!!!! If it was destined that somebody will die as a popper or if someone’s destined to be a king…if everything’s pre decided then what is the use of making an attempt or trying to get hold of something…you just need to sit there and it will come to you on its own, if it is in your destiny…I don’t believe that the nature is that unfair… it gives everyone equal chances to achieve their goals…some grab it…some don’t…yes I agree that maybe you’ll have to work harder than your peers to achieve the same things…that they got without any effort (say love, good looks or their father’s inheritance)…but in the end you can have it too, if you work hard…nature will provide you that prize, if you deserve it…now that’s bit ironical for me to speak coz I myself haven’t achieved something big in life…but I know that I haven’t made that effort either…I believe that I have wasted my talents and failed to push myself beyond the limits… there were times when gave up just when I was a step away from victory…and other times I was just sacred of success…I was afraid what that sudden success would do to me…hell, whatever the reason was I never actually used my free will to get what I wanted… I was dependent on luck… I was so sure that one day I would wake up and all my problems would just vanish away like this…I was waiting for a miracle…some kinda omen to show me the way… which obviously wasn’t there…

Maybe right now I am not making any sense to some of you… some of you might be thinking, who cares about free will or destiny…I just wanna live my life, but its one question that has fooled me for a long time now…and I guess I am gonna stick with free will

But still, its pretty hard to explain that “unkown factor”…and the supporters of destiny have their points to put as well… I guess, in the end its all about what you believe in…if it’s the destiny you believe in…or if it’s the free will you believe in…either of them can work for you…only if you believe

But seriously guys, do think about it…was it your free will to read this post or was it just your destiny???